Being excluded is an unpleasant experience for anyone, let alone children. When children are excluded, they may feel lost, lonely, and not accepted. This not only affects their social and emotional development, but also affects their learning and mental health. So, as parents or adults, how should we enlighten those excluded children? Let’s explore it now.
First, understand the psychological state of children being excluded. When children are excluded, they may feel a series of negative emotions such as frustration, helplessness, anger, and anxiety. When these emotions are not handled properly, they can seriously affect children’s self-esteem and emotional development, so we need to understand and pay attention to their psychological state.
Second, provide positive support and encourage children. Parents or adults can support and encourage their children in the following ways:
- Establish good relationships with children. Establishing intimate relationships by spending time chatting, playing games, walking, and other ways with children can let them know that they are highly valued and loved.
Let children know that being excluded is not their fault. Parents or adults can tell their children that everyone has their own values and characteristics, and it is not ruled out that they will have friends in other places. Let children know that being excluded is not their fault, but someone else’s behavior.
Encourage children to find new social activities. Parents or adults can take their children to social activities to make new friends, such as participating in sports teams, art classes, or other activities of interest, thereby helping them gradually adapt to the new environment and make new friends.
- Provide correct cognition. Provide positive affirmation and recognition to let children know that they are valuable. At the same time, it is necessary to avoid negative evaluations or accusations against children and prevent negative emotions from worsening.
- Provide safety protection when children are excluded. When children are excluded, parents or adults can provide safety protection to their children, such as allowing them to change their learning environment or temporarily leave social activities. This can help the excluded child temporarily shake off the crowded environment and avoid further emotional stress.
When helping children, we need to understand their psychological state and provide safety protection that conforms to their personality and growth characteristics. This helps children naturally adapt to new environments, find new friends, rebuild trust, and regain their shine and strength.