Children experience some uncontrollable emotional impulses during their emotional growth, and this is also a part of their growth. However, if a 12 year old child cannot control their emotions, this may lead to further behavioral problems, such as impulsive behavior, aggressive behavior, and so on. So, as parents or guardians, how can we help children control their emotions?
First, talk to the child. Children can’t control their emotions, usually because they feel negative emotions such as depression, loneliness, helplessness, or depression. In this situation, we should have an open and meaningful conversation with our children to understand their emotions and thoughts, so that they can feel the support and care of their parents or guardians, thereby alleviating their negative emotions.
Secondly, teach children how to control themselves. As adults, we can learn from many self control strategies, such as deep breathing, relaxation exercises, distraction, and regular exercise. We can teach children to try these methods to control their emotions, thereby helping them control their emotions more effectively.
Third, enhance children’s self-awareness. Children may not know where their emotions come from or why they feel such emotions. Therefore, with our help, children need to recognize how their emotions relate to their surroundings and people. With this self-awareness, children can better understand themselves and find better ways to handle negative emotions, which helps to control their emotions.
Fourth, cultivate children’s social skills. Children often face emotional challenges in social activities. Therefore, developing children’s social skills is an important way to help them control their emotions. Teach children skills such as how to communicate, how to discover and utilize their strengths, and how to express their emotions to help them control their emotions more effectively.
Finally, seek the help of a psychologist. If the child’s emotional problems still cannot be controlled, it is recommended that parents or guardians seek the help of a professional psychologist. Psychologists can provide more in-depth and personalized assistance to help children better control their emotions.
In short, when helping children control their emotions, we should understand their emotional state, help them acknowledge their emotions, and enhance their self control ability. Rather than using simple and violent coping styles, we should understand the situation of children and take appropriate measures to help them better control their emotions, thereby growing into healthier, more confident, and more independent individuals.